Kelly KleinLet me be real: You will never be successful in any area of your life if you are not confident. It’s a harsh reality. No matter how hard you work, if you don’t have the confidence, and if you don’t believe in yourself, you can only go so far.
So, let’s dive in. How do you gain the confidence you need?
- Have an attitude of gratitude. Be grateful for what you have in your life already.
- Hygiene and grooming. You will feel a little more confident instantly by just taking care of your hygiene and grooming yourself. Also, wear nice-fitting clothing. It doesn’t have to be expensive – you can get inexpensive clothing at a thrift store and still look great. Looking awesome is a small step in growing your confidence.
- Take care of your physical body. Eat healthy, exercise, drink plenty of water, take your vitamins, get lots of fresh air and sunshine, and get plenty of sleep. This is the foundation of any well-lived life.
- Take care of your mental health. Your mental health is just as important, if not more important, than your physical health. If needed, see a therapist to get your mental health back on track.
- Posture. Work on your posture. If you stand tall, you will start to feel tall, metaphorically speaking.
- Declutter your space. It’s easier to feel confident when your home is clean, organized, and clutter free.
- Learn to love yourself. Love is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. If you love yourself, you can do anything. Treat yourself with compassion.
- Change your mindset. It’s easier said than done, but so very important. Fight any negative talk. When you make a mistake, instead of coming down on yourself, reframe it as an opportunity for learning. You negative thoughts are usually untrue. And if they are true, you can change it. If you tell yourself you are lazy, for instance, you could ask yourself if you really are. And if you are, there are ways you can be less lazy. You can do that with any negative thought you have.
- Positive self-talk. Replace negative thoughts with encouraging ones.
- Get to know yourself. I have another blog post on this topic. (LINK TO THAT BLOG POST)
- Know your values and principles. This is part of knowing who you are. It is important to know what your values are and to live by them.
- Focus on your strengths. Know what your strengths are.
- Help others. It’s easy to feel confident when you bring value to others’ lives. You can help your family, friends, or strangers on the street. Just a simple compliment can brighten someone’s day, and when you make them feel good, you feel good…and more confident. Also, volunteering is a good idea.
- Be Prepared. Do you remember doing presentations in front of class in high school? Despite being shy, I found I had more confidence when I was fully prepared for the presentation. And the same could be said of anything in life. The more prepared you are, the more confident you are.
- Be competent. This goes with Be Prepared. If you increase your competence in something, then your confidence automatically goes up. All you have to do is study and practice. Take small steps, but increase your competence a little every single day.
- Set small goals. I know you have big goals and dreams you want to achieve. But start small. Over time, you can grow your goals, but smaller ones will grow your confidence as you achieve them. Or, if you have a large goal, break it down into smaller goals.
- Take action. Even if it’s only one small step. You know what they say, “An object in motion tends to stay in motion. An object at rest tends to stay at rest.” Building up momentum will also build your confidence.
- Do something you’ve been procrastinating on. This goes along with taking action. There have been things that I’ve been procrastinating on for months! Finally getting ‘er done raised my confidence exponentially, and the weight off my shoulders was a bonus!
- Focus on solutions. I used to complain a lot…until someone told me that if I don’t take steps to fix the thing I complain about, then what’s the point? It just adds negativity to your life. And if it’s something you can’t fix, there’s no point in that either. Think of solutions instead of problems. Failing is a learning opportunity, not a reflection on your self-worth.
- Have a strong support system. Spend time with people who build you up, instead of tear you down. Avoid those who don’t support you.
- Act confident. It’s the old fake it ‘til you make it. If you pretend to be confident, you will start feeling confident, and eventually it won’t be an act.
- Face your fears. Do what you’re afraid of and you will go far.
- Do your best. Always do your best, instead of putting forth a lackluster effort. I hate when my teachers used to tell me to apply myself, and here I am telling you the same: Apply yourself in everything you do. I had a supervisor once tell me that if I can lay my head on a pillow at the end of the day and say I did my best, that’s all that matters. And to stop worrying about other people and what they’re doing.
- Learn every day. And apply what you learn, especially if it’s something that can better your life.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Only compare yourself to the person you were yesterday. If you are better – even in a small way – than you were yesterday, that’s all that matters. Always be working on becoming better every day.
- Live life for you. Be your own person. Don’t let anyone else tell you how to live your life. They don’t know the whole story. They can offer advice, but it’s up to you if it’s right for your life.
- Step outside of your comfort zone. Because that is where the magic happens.
- Pursue your passions. Discover what you’re passionate about; what makes you come alive. Without passion, life is not worth living.
- Do what you say you’re going to do. If you make a promise to someone, keep it. This also includes yourself. Your confidence will build when you keep promises to yourself.
- Be authentic. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not.
- Dream big. The bigger your dreams, the better.
- Let go. Let go of negative people, toxic habits, procrastination, and perfectionism.
- Celebrate wins. Even the smallest win is something to be celebrated.
There are a lot of tips to digest. Don’t work on all of them at once. It’s best to work on a couple at first.
Never compare your beginning to someone else’s end. They may have been on the road longer. Focus on your own journey. You’ll get there.
Confidence grows from taking action, learning resilience, and believing in your ability to handle life’s challenges, one step at a time.
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Be awesome and may your life be passionate!
