Kelly KleinSometimes it takes a simple mind to understand (explain?) something complicated. Or maybe we tend to overcomplicate things. Do you remember Wembley Fraggle – the naive inhabitant of Fraggle Rock? He’s not my favourite Fraggle – I prefer Red, with Mokey as a close second, but…
In one episode he sings an overly simplistic song:
I’m always here, I’m never there I’m never ever anywhere Excepting here ‘cause here is where I’m in But when I go from here to there My here comes with me everywhere ‘Til there is here, and here is where I’ve been ~Here to There Wembley Fraggle Fraggle Rock
His song is surprisingly profound. On the surface, it’s just a fun children’s song, and the lyrics don’t deserve a second look. But you do look again and see the deeper meaning. It is a metaphor for life.
Don’t roll your eyes at me! Hear me out.
I once heard it said, “Wherever I go, there I am.” What that means is that you may leave a situation, a circumstance, or a relationship, but you haven’t changed at all, so you may end up in a similar situation, circumstance, or relationship.
If you must leave whatever it is, use the opportunity to grow. Instead of jumping into a new relationship, use this chance to become the best that you can be. You will find that your next relationship will be the right one for you.
So if you leave a situation, then you find it follows you, even if you do it multiple times, then it’s because there are some changes you need to make within you.
I have to add a note: If you are in an abusive relationship (emotional, mental, physical, sexual), IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. However, if you work on yourself, you will be less likely to find yourself in the same situation. You will have higher standards, be better able to spot red flags early on, and not settle for the wrong relationship. Loving yourself and living up to your potential will put you in better situations. And don’t give anyone permission to treat you less than you deserve!
Another side note: You can control your actions, behaviour, and thoughts. You can’t control that of another person. So work on you! Be the best that you can be.
This applies to the past, as well as the present. If you don’t change who you are, you will bring your past into the present. You are still you and might find yourself in a similar situation because you haven’t changed. It is important to also change yourself. As I write this, in 2021, I have recently left a relationship and moved out of the city. Instead of getting into a new relationship, I am improving my life in all areas. That way, I will end up in the relationship that’s right for me when I am ready.
Don’t leave a situation expecting things to change without first changing yourself. You are still you. You will still attract things that you escaped from.
Also remember you’re not in the past anymore. Don’t focus on it or it will follow you. Move on. It’s OK to remember the past…but learn from your mistakes instead of dwelling on them.
Let me know your thoughts! Be awesome and may your life be passionate!
