Kelly KleinI watch people. I think people are interesting. I am working on improving on my life. As I do so, I keep close eye on those who are or were at a similar level as I am, but are moving on. People who were where I am. I study them to see if what they did is possible for me…to see what they did.
These people probably don’t know that their story inspires me (and there are several people). If they didn’t push through their obstacles, would I have been able to learn from their story? In that same vein, what will people miss out on if I don’t push through my own obstacles? Maybe I wouldn’t be inspired if I didn’t know people who weren’t above me or below me in life, but at my equivalent. I needed someone to do it first (or before me). So instead of being jealous, I should follow their lead…for maybe there is someone out there who needs me to be an example.
I see these people as they deal with their struggles, then after a few short years, everything seems to go their way. Was it an overnight success? No! I think one reason I identify with these people is that I saw them when they were going through things. I knew them before…the change.
What was the catalyst for a life so turned around? What did these people all have in common? Studying people, and even without knowing all of their story, it all came down to a few factors they all shared in common.
It seems like there are different stages they all go through, starting from as low as depression and not doing much, all the way up to sitting on top of the world. I don’t know what these stages are, but I do know what appears to be factors that help bring them up into what I would call success. They may not be successful as in rich, but they pulled themselves up. I’m sure they worked hard to do it, therefore deserve that reward.
The factors of moving forward seem to be: (1) Maturity, (2) Isolation, (3) Support, (4) Occupation, (5) Fun, and (6) Contribution.
- Maturity. They simply grew up. They learned skills. They acted more adult. They became more independent.
- Isolation. They stopped isolating themselves. They got out and did more. They started by going for regular walks. They got out at least weekly. They accepted invitations.
- Support. They sought support from family and friends. They talked to a therapist. They found someone interested in growth.
- Occupation. They started a new career or job that they enjoy, are good at, and are passionate about.
- Fun. They got out and had fun. They stopped taking life so seriously. They did something fun weekly. They did things they always wanted to do but are afraid.
- Contribution. They contributed more to society through volunteering at school and other organizations. They helped where needed. They saw a need and filled it.
Obviously, not all people do all things in each category, but it seems like everyone has each category represented in their lives somehow.
I look at these people not with envy, but to learn what I can do in my own life to move forward and live the life I’ve always dreamed of. Someday I will get there. Even through the doubt, the obstacles, and the overwhelm. You will get there too! Small steps every day and you will also be able to get the life of your dreams!
Are you someone who is living a great life and you have words of wisdom? Share it with me in the comments! Perhaps you could help other people who are seeking.
May your life be passionate!
