Kelly KleinOne thing I have learned is that if you leave an abusive relationship, you will be the one who is punished…
Your whole world will be turned upside down while his goes on as normal.
You will have to leave your home and possibly live in a shelter.
You will have to find an income to support yourself.
You will have to find a place to live and hope you can afford it.
You will have to fight for custody and child support.
You will have to hire lawyers.
You will be denied programs you feel you qualify for.
You will have to make sure your children get an education, are fed, and clothed. You will have to get their basic needs met on your own.
You will get audited by the CRA because of life changes.
You will have all your stuff in storage because now you can’t afford more than a tiny apartment to house you and your children.
You will have to work more than full time to make ends meet.
You are the one to have to find a way to get back on your feet.
You will be judged for the choices you make by people who have never lived it, or never lived it in these times.
You will have more downs than ups.
You will have people turn on you.
You will have people fall for the abuser’s charm and believe their lies.
You will be tempted to go back to the abuser, since it seems like the easier route.
You will be worried about finances.
You will lose control of your life.
You will be running on a hamster wheel, feeling like you’re doing all the things you need to do to move forward, but all the while running in place.
You will experience stress unlike you’ve ever experienced.
You will have many people in your life who don’t truly understand.
You will feel lost.
You will be numb.
You will be scared.
You will feel alone.
You will have moments of weakness when you’re sitting in the dark and wanting the pain to just be O-V-E-R.
You will be in the greatest fight of your life.
BUT
You will have moments of light.
You will find support in the least likely of places.
You will find love again.
You will get through all the obstacles, one at a time…it may take years.
You will know who your true friends and supporters are.
You will learn to gravitate towards the positivity and push away the negativity.
You will discover how strong you really are.
He will not get away with this forever.
You will get through this.
Stay strong. You got this. I believe in you. Even as I am going through a lot of the above, and feeling all kinds of emotions, I know one day it will all be a memory. I want this to be encouragement to anyone who is going through anything.
Just keep swimming towards your best life. Let go of the negative influences and do you, because I may know you, or I may not, but I know you are badass and deserve a better life, no matter where you are on this crazy journey.Be awesome and may your life be passionate!
