You Are Lovable!

I once heard it said that no one will love you until you love yourself. And you can’t love other until you love yourself.

STOP SAYING THAT!!

Why the Quote Has Some Truth to It

1. If you love yourself, you will attract the right kind of love for you.
2. You can take it to mean it’s important to know your worth and not settling for less than you deserve.
3. Loving yourself helps you to love others, and in turn, helps you to love yourself even more. It’s an upward spiral.

Why the Quote Has Some Untruth to It

1. You are not unlovable just because you don’t love yourself.
2. You are not unworthy of love because of your own struggle.
3. Just because you don’t love yourself, doesn’t mean you’re toxic or difficult.
4. Telling someone no one loves them doesn’t help their self-worth.
5. People are capable of being loving towards others, even if they hate themselves.
6. You do not have control over how others feel about you.
7. It’s like telling someone with broken legs that they are not worth loving unless they stand up.
8. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved.

Conclusion

It is important to learn to love yourself. But not loving yourself doesn’t mean that no one truly loves you. Your family, friends, or partner love you. I guarantee that even if you don’t have family, you still have someone out there who loves you. And better yet, there are lots of people out there that could love you when they get to know you.

I was told by an abusive ex-boyfriend that he didn’t love me because I didn’t love myself. That made me feel so great about myself. Not.

He also said he didn’t respect me because I don’t respect myself. It gave him reason to treat me poorly. What eventually freed me was that I couldn’t respect myself while staying with someone who belittled me so much.

If you don’t know your worth, people will walk all over you. Find peace with yourself because finding it in someone else won’t last forever. You’ll carry around that negative energy of self-hatred until you fix it internally.

Also, until you love yourself though and have a deep love relationship with yourself, how you love other people is going to be limited. The more I love myself the more I have to offer to those around me.

The bottom line is, the idea you can’t love others and other can’t love you until you love yourself is detrimental. Why don’t we spend time helping people learn to love themselves instead? Use your energy for something positive.

I am working on another blog post about loving yourself. I know firsthand how hard it is.

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